Broken, Bare, and Rising: The No-BS Blog
This blog isn’t about sugarcoating life. There’s no “everything happens for a reason” here, no fluffy affirmations, no pretending I’ve got it all figured out. This is my no BS space to lay it all out my mess, my chaos, my survival. The days when my body won’t cooperate, my mind won’t stop racing, and the world feels like it’s moving forward without me.
This is where I get real about chronic illness, mental health struggles, trauma, and the uphill battle of just existing. It’s messy, it’s raw, and it’s honest the kind of honesty most people avoid.
Here, inspiration meets reality. Education meets raw truth. Awareness meets healing. And yeah… it’s basically my virtual diary, documenting the unfiltered truth of navigating a life that doesn’t come with an instruction manual.
You’ll read about the hard stuff the heartbreak, the isolation, the setbacks no one warns you about but also the wins, the small wins, and the unexpected moments of clarity that remind you: you can survive this, and you can rise from it stronger than you thought possible.
Topics include:
Domestic Violence and Healing – the ugly, the painful, the survival
Health and Wellness – what actually works when your body fights you
Living With Chronic Illness and Pain – the days that feel impossible and the victories that keep you going
Reflections – raw thoughts, uncomfortable truths, and insights from the trenches
Blog Series on Various Topics – deep dives into specific struggles, challenges, and growth areas so you can really learn, relate, and reflect
This space is for anyone who’s tired of pretending. For anyone who’s felt unseen, stuck, or defeated. Your pain doesn’t define you, your courage to rise does. Step in. Read, reflect, and claim your power.
Trauma Blocking
Are some of the ways people might cope with trauma by blocking out painful emotions or memories. These behaviors can serve as temporary distractions from the underlying issues, but they often prevent individuals from truly confronting and healing from their trauma.
How to Process Trauma
Remember, processing trauma is a deeply personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to approach it. Allow yourself the grace to explore different methods and find what resonates best with you. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge that healing takes time, effort, and a great deal of self-compassion.
A Letter to My Inner Child
Life has not always been kind to us, and it has certainly not been easy. We have faced more challenges and traumas than we ever asked for or could have imagined.
Reflections Of April
My Reflections of April, I’m not quite sure how it happened; one moment we were in April, and now I find myself here, listening to the tui and the fantails on a rather chilly and gloomy start to May. April was quite challenging for me, both mentally and emotionally.
Monthly Reflection,A Valuable Practice
Taking time for monthly reflection is something I believe everyone should embrace. It’s incredibly helpful as we transition into a new month
Music is My Therapy
Music has served as my therapy during difficult times, especially on days when I've been confined to bed. Each lyric transports me to a specific moment in my life,
Understanding Abandonment
Abandonment is a complex emotional experience that arises when an individual feels rejected, discarded, or left behind by someone significant in their life
This isn't kindness; it's People-Pleasing.
This isn't kindness; it's people-pleasing. It involves continuously forgiving those who are unwilling to change, Its a pattern that often leads to self-sacrifice and emotional exhaustion.
My Life Changed When
My life changed when I sought help, began therapy, and started advocating for my health to ensure my voice was heard and taken seriously. I learned the importance of persistence and self-advocacy, realizing that my well-being deserved priority and respect
Are You a People Pleaser?
People pleasing andrRecognizing these tendencies can be a crucial first step towards understanding and addressing your people-pleasing behavior. It's important to acknowledge that wanting to help and support others is inherently kind and generous.
Embracing Yourself Every Day
Every day, you choose to embrace your unique journey, honoring your strengths and acknowledging areas for growth. You surround yourself with supportive people who uplift and inspire you, creating a network of encouragement and positivity.
A Grounding Exercise
A Grounding Exercise: Whether at the beach, in a forest, or perhaps in a garden
Reflecting on My Healing Journey
My healing journey 2023, when I returned home, life was chaotic. At that point, we didn't even have a stable place to live. I was in Auckland, mourning the loss of a father I never really knew, while also trying to rediscover myself after years of abuse. This marked the start of my healing journey
Seek Peace
One of the first steps in creating a soulful synergy between healing and spirituality is to seek peace within ourselves. This can be achieved through practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork
How to Release Trauma Energy
Releasing trauma energy is a personal journey, and it's important to find what works best for you. Each of these activities can help you reconnect with your body, process emotions, and create a sense of peace.
Life Can Lead Down Many Paths
Life can occasionally lead you down various paths; some may be dark, others unexpected, and some may seem confusing. There are paths that take a bit longer to figure out.Yet, each path holds its own lessons and opportunities for growth.
Healing and the Triggers
No matter how much healing i done, triggers can still linger, waiting to resurface. This week has been a barrage of triggers, pulling me back to a dark chapter of my life.
Inconsistency in Friendships
Friendships today are quite different from what they used to be; more people communicate through social media rather than forming genuine connections. With everyone leading busy lives, inconsistency in relationships has become more apparent.
Emotions as Energy
Emotions are not just feelings; they are powerful forms of energy that influence our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Recognizing emotions as energy offers a new perspective on how we can manage and harness them for our benefit.
Factors That Disrupt a Regulated Nervous System
Things that impact the nervous system's ability to maintain balance and function optimally. When the nervous system is dysregulated, it can lead to a range of physical and emotional symptoms, affecting overall well-being.