The Two Connections in the Dating World

The dating world - the two very different types of connections that can really shape our journey to finding love. You know what I mean, right?

First, there's that beautiful situation where you're someone's genuine priority. You can feel it in your bones. They text you back promptly, not because they feel obligated, but because they actually want to talk to you. They remember the little things. They make plans in advance and stick to them. When you're together, their phone stays in their pocket because you have their full attention. That's what it feels like to be someone's priority.

But then there's the flip side - being someone's entertainment option. We've all been there, haven't we? You're basically their human Netflix - they tune in when they're bored and tune out when something more interesting comes along, the constant rescheduling. They might even give you just enough attention to keep you hanging on, but never enough to make you feel secure.

Now, this is where something really important comes in - your values. They're like your personal compass in the dating world. Maybe you value honesty, respect, and consistency. Or perhaps emotional availability and shared future goals matter most to you. Whatever your values are, they're not just random preferences - they're the foundation of who you are and what you deserve in a relationship.

Speaking of what you deserve, self-worth. It's funny how sometimes we forget our own value when we're caught up in someone else's orbit. But here's the truth: your worth isn't determined by someone else's inability to see it. You're not a backup plan, a maybe, or a "let's see where this goes" option. You're a whole person with dreams, goals, and so much to offer.

The dating world can be tough, but remember this: if someone makes you question your worth, they're not the one questioning your value - they're questioning their own ability to meet your standards. Don't lower your standards to meet someone else's limitations. When you're treated as a priority, you'll know it. There won't be any confusion, no mental gymnastics trying to justify their behavior.

So next time you're dating someone, pay attention to which category you fall into. Are you their priority or their entertainment? And more importantly, are you honoring your values and self-worth in the process? Because at the end of the day, the most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.