Create a Domestic Violence Safety Plan

One of the most valuable tools you can create is a safety plan. It's something I never had, and I lacked an understanding of what it should entail. While leaving an abusive situation is a crucial first step, ensuring your safety as you move forward is equally important.

A safety plan is a personalized and practical strategy designed to for your safety while experiencing abuse, preparing to leave an abusive relationship, or after leaving. It involves thinking through steps to protect yourself and your loved ones physically and emotionally.

Here are some key components to consider when creating your safety plan:

Emergency Contacts:
Keep a list of emergency contacts, including trusted friends, family members, and local support services. Ensure this list is easily accessible and that these individuals are aware of your situation.

Safe Places:
Identify safe locations where you can go if you need to leave your home suddenly. This could include the home of a trusted friend or family member, a shelter, or a public place with security.

Important Documents:
Gather essential documents such as identification, financial records, legal papers, and medical records. Keep them in a safe place or leave copies with someone you trust.

Safety During a Violent Incident:
Plan how to safely leave your home during a violent incident. Identify which doors, windows, or exits are accessible and keep your phone charged and nearby.

Communication Plan:
Decide how you will communicate with others safely. This may include using a code word with trusted people to signal danger or a need for help.

Self-Care Strategies:
Consider activities that help you manage stress and maintain your well-being. This might include meditation, journaling, or engaging in creative pursuits.

Legal Protection:
Research legal options available to you, such as restraining orders, and understand how to obtain them if necessary. Keep a record of any incidents, including dates, times, and descriptions of what occurred.

Financial Independence:
If possible, work towards financial independence. This can include saving money in a separate account, seeking employment, or accessing financial support services.

Community Resources:
Familiarize yourself with local resources such as domestic violence hotlines, support groups, counseling services, and legal aid.

Trust Your Instincts:
Your instincts and intuition are powerful tools. Trust them as you navigate your situation and make decisions that prioritize your safety and well-being.

Remember, creating a safety plan is a proactive step in reclaiming your power and ensuring your safety. Each person's situation is unique, so tailor your plan to fit your specific needs and circumstances. Reach out for support when needed, and take comfort in knowing you are not alone on this journey