Happiness should come From within You

One important lesson I’ve learned is the necessity of loving yourself and appreciating your own space, regardless of what that may look like. Happiness should come from within; you shouldn’t rely on someone else to provide it.

I remember when I left an abusive relationship and attempted to enter another one, but unfortunately, it didn’t work out for various reasons. We remain great friends, and they understand me better than most. The reality is that I needed to heal from my traumas; I had to comprehend why I was drawn to certain types of people, and it was essential to address my own pain. It wouldn't have been fair to place that burden on someone else, especially before I had taken the time to sort myself out.

As I reflect on the beginning of my healing journey and compare it to my current state, I notice a significant shift in my mindset. My expectations, understanding of how I deserve to be treated, and vision of my ideal relationship have all evolved. Having never truly experienced a healthy relationship free from abuse or pain, I’ve encountered a few individuals along the way. I’ve kept an open mind, faced some challenges, and often thought, “Wow, this dating world is tough.” .My standards have elevated, my expectations have increased, and my self-worth has grown. My perspective on relationships has transformed, leading to a shift in the type of partner I seek. I am now less likely to settle for less. Most importantly, I have learned to love myself and love my own company.

Pause for a moment to reflect on this quote and consider your current position in life regarding this specific topic.