Why I Started a Women's Group

Blooming Babes Collective Women's group online and offline

I know what it feels like to survive things you never thought you’d survive.

To lose yourself while trying to keep everyone else together.

To smile when you’re breaking.

To say “I’m fine” when you’re anything but.

To carry shit nobody else can see.

And I know how lonely healing can fucking feel.

So, I created this space.

Not another group full of toxic positivity and pretty quotes telling you to “just think positive.”

A real space for the messy shit, real connections and support🧡

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1. Because healing is hard when you feel like you're doing it alone.

You can be surrounded by people and still feel incredibly lonely.

I've learned that loneliness isn't always about having nobody around you.

Sometimes it's about having nobody who truly understands what's happening underneath the surface.

There is something powerful about sitting in a room or a conversation with women who don't need you to explain every fucking detail.

2. I wanted to create the safe space I wish I'd had.

During some of my darkest moments, I needed somewhere I could show up without pretending.

Somewhere I didn't have to be the strong one.

Somewhere I could say:

"I'm struggling."

"I'm angry."

"I'm exhausted."

"I don't know what I'm doing."

And not be judged for it.

So I decided to create that space.

Not a perfect space.

A real one.

3. Women deserve somewhere they can be themselves.

No masks, no performing, no pretending your life is Instagram-perfect.

You don't have to arrive looking like you've got your shit together.

• You can come messy.

• You can come tired.

• You can come quiet.

• You can come laughing.

• You can come exactly as you are.

Because you don't have to earn belonging by being okay.

4. I don't believe healing only happens in a therapy room.

Therapy has its place.

Professional support matters.

But sometimes healing also looks like walking beside another woman while talking about life.

• A coffee.

• A laugh.

• A shared experience.

• A hug.

• Sitting near the water.

Someone saying, "Fuck, I understand."

Sometimes the smallest moments become the ones that remind us we're still alive.

5. You are more than what happened to you.

I've seen how easily women can begin identifying themselves through their pain.

• Trauma.

• Chronic illness.

• Anxiety.

• Grief.

• Relationships.

• Mistakes.

Things that happened to them,Things they regret, Things they never asked for.

But you are not your diagnosis.

You are not your trauma.

You are not the worst thing that happened to you.

There is still a woman underneath all of that.

And sometimes she just needs somewhere safe enough to come back out.

6. Community creates courage.

There is something fucking powerful about women supporting women.

• Watching someone else speak their truth can make you brave enough to speak yours.

• Watching someone set a boundary can remind you that you're allowed to have one too.

• Watching someone rebuild can make you believe that maybe you can rebuild as well.

We don't always realise the impact we have on each other.

Sometimes your story becomes the permission someone else needed.

7. Every woman deserves to feel seen.

Not fixed. Not analysed. Not judged. Seen, Heard,Valued, Accepted.

There is a massive difference.

I don't want to create a group where everyone sits around trying to become some perfect version of themselves.

I want women to feel safe enough to discover who they actually are underneath all the expectations.

8. Because healing can change generations.

This one matters the most to me.

When a woman begins healing, it doesn't always stop with her.

• She changes what she tolerates.

• She changes how she communicates.

• She changes the boundaries she teaches.

• She changes what becomes normal.

• She starts questioning the patterns that have been passed down.

And sometimes she becomes the person who finally says:

"This ends with me."

That's powerful.

One woman choosing to heal can create ripples far beyond herself.

9. I wanted women to come back to themselves.

Not who they were told to be.

Not who their partner wanted them to be.

Not who their family expected them to be.

Not who they became just to survive.

Them.

Their humour, Their dreams, Their strength. Their softness, Their intuition,Their weirdness,Their passions, Their voice,Their fucking spark.

Because sometimes the biggest part of healing isn't becoming someone new.

It's remembering who you were before you became everything everyone else needed.

10. Because no woman should have to fight her unseen battles alone.

We talk about the obvious struggles.

But some of the hardest battles are invisible.

• The woman smiling while she's barely holding it together.

• The woman caring for everyone while desperately needing someone to care for her.

• The woman rebuilding quietly.

• The woman who doesn't even know what she needs yet.

• The woman who has spent so long surviving that she doesn't know how to simply live.

I wanted somewhere for those women too.

This group isn't about having all the answers.

I'm not creating a room full of women pretending we've got life figured out.

Quite the opposite.

• We're learning.

• We're unlearning.

• We're laughing.

• We're crying.

• We're having honest conversations.

• We're getting outside.

• We're drinking coffee.

• We're walking.

• We're connecting.

• We're remembering that life is about more than the things we've survived.

That's why I started this group.

Not to fix women.

Not to save women.

Not to tell women how to live.

But to create a space where women can belong while they find their way.

Because I know what it feels like to carry too much alone.

And I don't want other women to believe they have to.

You don't have to have it all together to belong here

There is room for you here.