The Warning Signs

Domestic violence and my abuser

The warning signs were there my reality was i was unhealed and carrying trauma and that led mr to repeating relationship patterns. I complety got caught up in what I wanted to see and before I realized it I was to far in to turn back. It was like being caught in a whirlwind, of something new and exciting.

The red flags were there

• Words failing to align with actions

• Endless complaints

• Accelerated pace of the relationship

• Lack of accountability

• Unfulfilled promises

• Confusing communication

• Reflecting, deflecting, and shifting blame

• Compulsive dishonesty

• Struggles with addiction

• Shallow charm

• Ongoing excuse-making

• Fabricated stories to justify behavior

I learned the hard way that ignoring those red flags only led to deeper heartache and confusion.

It's been a journey of peeling back layers, of looking beyond the surface and diving deep into my own heart and mind. I needed to confront the fears and insecurities that had been quietly steering my choices, pushing me towards the familiar yet destructive paths. It wasn't easy, and there were moments when I wanted to retreat back into the comfort of denial. But each step forward was a step toward healing and self-discovery.

Through this process, I began to understand the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing my worth. It was about learning to love myself enough to walk away from situations that didn't serve me, and to seek relationships that were built on mutual respect and genuine connection. I realized that healing was not just an internal journey but also about creating healthier patterns in my external life

I found a new sense of empowerment and clarity. The patterns that once held me captive began to unravel, making way for a future filled with possibility and hope. This journey taught me that while the past may have shaped me, it did not have to define me. I could choose a new path, one that aligned with my true self and aspirations.

In the end, it was about finding strength in vulnerability and courage in change, allowing me to step into a life that resonated with who I am and who I am becoming. Each day, I continue to learn, grow, and embrace the journey of healing, knowing that I am worthy of love, happiness, and a life free from the shadows of my past.